Husbands, lead your wives.

Where in scripture does it say that the husband is to lead his wife?

Where? Can you find it?

You can't because it isn't there. "Husbands, lead your wives" is not in scripture but up until now I had written it in myself. I thought that one of the best things I could do for my wife is to lead her. If you are a husband you might have thought the same thing. You probably asked yourself all the time, "How do I be a better leader for my wife?" But my wife doesn't need a leader. Kristen doesn't want me to go to leadership seminars and strategy sessions on how I could capitalize on our intrapersonal-communicational-growth-margin.

Part of being a Godly husband is in fact being a good leader, a good initiator, and throwing away all passivity. But nowhere in the Bible does it say specifically that husbands are to be good leaders. That isn't the charge for husbands. That's good because I don't know how to be a good leader sometimes, and I don't even know what intrapersonal-communicational-growth-margin means.

The Bible does say however, that the husband is to love the wife. (Eph 5:25, Col 3:19) Out of that love will come leadership, of course, but so much more will come too. Love isn't bound to leadership. If you put leadership as the focus you will drastically limit the capacity of love.

The world doesn't need more husbands that lead. It needs more husbands that love.

What do you think?